Seeing the beauty

Being pretty, attractive, beautiful …
A friend tells me that her grandmother said to her, ‘You may not be pretty, but you are attractive’. I am not sure what I might have felt if someone had said that to me when I was young, but was her grandmother was on to something? Would you, would I, […]

By |July 4th, 2018|Musings, Quakers|Comments Off on Seeing the beauty

Can I let go of a grudge?

Do you hold grudges? I am sorry to say that sometimes I do. Grudges can feel like a real burden but at the same time can be really difficult to let go. They can also affect the quality of life in the present. Of course, there can be small everyday irritations. There can also be times […]

By |March 30th, 2018|Advices and Queries, All posts, Forgiveness|1 Comment

How would you like to be remembered?

How would you like to be remembered? And could this make a difference to how you live your life?

Later today I am going to a Quaker meeting. It is a meeting for worship ‘on occasion of a memorial meeting held after the manner of the Society of Friends’.  The person in question was over 90 […]

By |March 25th, 2018|All posts, Death & Dying, Quakers|0 Comments

Discovering strengths and gifts – spiritual and otherwise

We are all different, in many wonderful ways. And one difference is in the unique set of strengths or gifts that we each hold. Do you know what makes you unique? As a positive psychologist and coach, I embraced the notion of strengths in my work – how to identify them, how to make the most […]

What brought you to Quakers?

I have heard that it can take many years for someone to walk into a Quaker meeting for the first time, and for some, it can take courage. Recently a number of us reflected on what brought us to Quakers. Amongst us, there are Friends who first came to meeting decades ago, people who have only recently […]

By |March 17th, 2018|All posts, Quakers|0 Comments

Day 24: Take time to speak to a neighbour and get to know them

This evening four folk are coming to supper. Two are our friends, and the others are actually their neighbours – confused? We have met them a few times and really like them, and are looking forward to getting to know them better. They live nearby and so it will be especially good to develop a […]

Day 21: Actively listen to what people say without judging them

I have spent time today with a nearly 4-year-old, a 3-month-old, and their lovely mum, and we’ve had some great conversations. Reflecting on these I think I have mainly listened, but perhaps not all the time, and I don’t think I’ve judged them. However reading the action for today has made me think of a […]

Day 15: Be kind especially when your first instinct is to be unkind

In reflecting on this action I thought about how helpful I have found both Buddhist meditation and also Quaker wisdom. I find ‘Quaker faith & practice’ a wonderful resource of sayings and writings gleaned by Friends over the past 350 years. There is lots that is helpful in relation being kind when perhaps it does […]