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Day 16: Respond positively to everyone you meet today

Today I have spent time with a number of people as on a Friday after our 30 minute Quaker Meeting for Worship we have a facilitated discussion. Today the subject was ‘prayer’ and was fascinating. There were about 20 of us and there were probably at least as many different views and experiences in the […]

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Day 15: Be kind especially when your first instinct is to be unkind

In reflecting on this action I thought about how helpful I have found both Buddhist meditation and also Quaker wisdom. I find ‘Quaker faith & practice’ a wonderful resource of sayings and writings gleaned by Friends over the past 350 years. There is lots that is helpful in relation being kind when perhaps it does […]

Day 14: Tell loved ones why they are so special to you

On Valentine’s Day we are encouraged to think of those we love. It has become very commercialised but still offers a symbolic opportunity to think especially of people we care about. In my teens I remember the thrill of receiving an anonymous card, and wondering who had sent it. I also sent cards and wondered […]

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Day 13: Smile at people you’re with and try to brighten their day

This has been a really nice exercise. Today I’ve visited a dear friend who is a ‘voluntary solitary’, spent time at a local hospital, and visited a number of shops and so there have been lots of opportunities to carry out this action. I enjoy smiling at folk and almost always a smile comes in […]

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Day 12: Try to involve others and invite them to join your conversations

Yesterday I was in a local pub enjoying live music with some friends. I was focusing on the performance when I noticed two friends who were in the midst of a conversation turn to someone sitting alone. They had been facing each other but then opened up to include this third person. I do not […]

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Day 11: Put away digital devices and really focus on who you’re with

It’s now 19.00 and so time to reflect on how well, or otherwise, I managed with this action. On a positive note this is the first time I’ve opened up my laptop, something I would often have done intermittently during the day. Something that has made it easier is that I have had a busy […]

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Day 10: Tell a loved one about their strengths you value most

The person I have chosen is Saira (not her real name). I love her as a daughter and as a dear dear friend. She is an extraordinary woman who has gone through many trials, tribulations, and tragedies, as well as joys, in a number of countries through which she has passed and in which she […]

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Day 9: Say friendly things to people who work in your local shop or café

Today I have only been to one shop and no cafés but have visited our health centre and also had a dental appointment. I was also part of a discussion at our Quaker Meeting House. Do these count, and what do we mean by ‘saying friendly things’?

Being pragmatic I interpreted this task as being everything […]

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Day 8: Notice the good qualities of everyone you meet today

This has to be one of the most enjoyable tasks of Friendly February. One thing I love to do is to notice and appreciate someone’s qualities. I also enjoy passing this on to the person concerned (if they want to hear it), and to tell others if this is appropriate. In my work I  helped […]

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Day 7: Thank someone and tell them how they made a difference for you

This was a lovely action, although I initially found it difficult to decide who to thank. In the end this was what happened:

‘I want to thank you for coming into my life, giving me unconditional love and letting me love you. You have brought happiness and joy and fun into my life. Because of you […]

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